From day one we all have labels thrust upon us based off of where we live, how we dress, what our parents do, etc. As human beings it is almost impossible for us to not label and stereotype, it's something that comes naturally. I've been labeled my whole life, and I think all they really do is put you in a little box, when you have so much more to offer to the world. Whether we like it or not other people's thoughts about us are going to impact how we see ourselves, and that's screwed up.
I'll admit I am afraid. Afraid of not being good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough. As a girl in this world today there's so much pressure to fit society's standards. And I don't think that ever really goes away, you kind of just learn to deal with it, how to grow and learn from it, use it to better yourself. And me feeling this way, that's my own problem, it's an internal conflict that I have to cope with and overcome. But it makes me wonder, how did our opinions of ourselves come to be? Our friends, teachers, classmates, parents, all play a part in sculpting us into the person we are going to be, and also the way we see ourselves. If you hear you are not good enough too many times, eventually you will start to believe it. You cannot control what other people say or think about you, but YOU control how you react to it. Disagree, show the world that you know you're good enough. Stop being so hard on yourself, you are human, we are all perfectly imperfect and that's okay. Let go of the little voice in your head telling you that you aren't good enough, whether it is your voice, or someone else's.
Are we fixable? Are we able to put these negative thoughts to rest? Are we as human beings able to be put back together? I think so, actually I know so. It doesn't matter how long you have been allowing yourself to feel not good enough, you can stop right now. That, is your choice and yours alone. No one can make you, no one can change your opinion of yourself, no one can brush off the meaningless comments of others, it is up to you. And if you don't? Then you're just subjecting yourself to a life of misery and suffering, and no one deserves that. This may sound stupid, but I feel it's necessary. I said earlier I'm afraid of not being good enough, but when do I ever tell myself that I AM good enough? How often do we self reflect and tell ourselves how awesome we are? I know I'm guilty of only point out my flaws, when I know I have so much more to offer. I am good enough, I am smart enough, I am pretty enough, I am me. I am unique and there is no one in this world who can replace me. Remind yourself of this daily, because I know that I sure as hell lose sight of it more than I should. Instead of tearing yourself down, pick yourself up, praise yourself, you are kind and intelligent and important, and you deserve to hear it.
Here's what I've learned, people are going to label you. They are going to judge you, they are going to do everything in their power to try to belittle you. Don't let them, simple as that. See, those people are just jealous because they have their own battles and insecurities that make them think it is okay to rip you apart. But most importantly, go easy on yourself, you are doing the best you can with what you have, and you're going to be okay. We often think that others words are the ones we need to shelter ourselves from, that we forget to protect ourselves from our own criticisms. And at the end of the day, am I still afraid? Sure, like I said, I don't think those feelings go away, we're all afraid of something. But living in fear is no way to go through life. So believe you are good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or just enough in general, and accept nothing less.
Today I learned something, I learned how to accept myself. People are going to think whatever they want about you, but the only thing that matters is what you think of yourself. So overcome the labels, and show the haters that their opinions are irrelevant, show the world that you love who you are, because you should. We are our own worst critics, and I can promise you that you are never as bad as you think. So label me, ridicule me, stab me in the back, none of it matters to me anymore, because the only opinion that matters is mine, and I think I'm more than good enough.
How can you overcome the labels? Are you guilty of being your own worst critic?