We always think the bad guys are going to change and that we are going to be the exception, the one they become a better person for. And we always think the good guys are too good to ever break our hearts, so we let them in and they always prove us wrong. Or somehow we have the idea that we don't even deserve the good guys, so we flock to these bad boys, the cheaters, the liars, the dogs, and we let them treat us like shit because some twisted logic has us believing that we deserve it. And when a good guy comes along we push them aside because we are too busy lusting over the bad boy that will never love us. So what's the point?
Here's my philosophy on dating. Its important to have somebody that can make you laugh, somebody you can trust, somebody that, y'know turns you on...And its really, really important that these three people don't know each other…Haha, All jokes aside, is it possible to find one person with all of these qualities?
Sure people get married every day and people fall in love by the minute, but most of the time it feels like love is some far fetched idea that is out of reach. The bad guys we talk about, they're never going to give us that head over heels feeling, and as much as you try they're never going to love you, this isn't the movies, the bad boy isn't going to change his life just so he's good enough to be with you. He isn't going to transform into prince charming, he's a jerk and you know it, yet you continue to fall for his charm and give into his lies? Why? Maybe it makes you feel rebellious, maybe you like the thrill. Or maybe you're running scared from love, so you chase the bad boys in order to avoid feeling and emotion.
And while this seems like a good tactic for a while, one day you're going to wake up feeling lonely as hell and you'll wind up hating yourself for it. But we have to stop accepting this, so here's what I have to say to all the assholes(sorry!) out there. You don't get to have me, my body, my heart, none of it, because I deserve better than you. And to the good guys, never believe the saying that nice guys finish last, because someday being a good guy is going to pay off, don't be discouraged if a girl chases after a bad guy, chances are it'll make her realize what she's been missing.
Why does everybody lie? Well maybe we are all a bit scared, the girls, the guys, all of us. Maybe those bad guys, those non-exclusive, friends with benefits types, maybe they're just as scared of getting hurt as us, so they keep their distance. And the good guys, well maybe they think they don't have a shot in hell because all the girls fall for the bad guys, maybe they are scared of putting their hearts on the line only to be rejected. And as for the girls, maybe we are scared of it all. Good guys, bad guys, they all seem to hurt us. We're scared of falling for the bad guys cause we know they don't give a damn, and we're scared of falling for the good guys because they care too much. But don't be scared to let prince charming in when he comes around, after all there's nothing wrong with believing in fairy tales, everyone in them ends up happily ever after.
What's your dating philosophy? Do you find yourself running scared from love or putting up walls? Think about it!