I believe that the first step in getting your shit together is realizing that you are a hot mess. Admit it, accept it, welcome it, you're a fucking disaster. But it's okay! The first step in solving a problem is admitting that you have one. Take a step back and take a few deep breaths and surrender to the idea that you are all over the place right now. Once you have acknowledged the problem you can begin to fix it.
Now that you have embraced that your life has fallen apart, it's time to begin to pick up the pieces. Make a game plan of what you need to get in order for you to feel balanced and at ease. Make a list of the things you have to do, or begin working on assignments one by one. Decide what is a priority and what is not. Evaluate where you are and where you want to be and think of ways that you can get there.
In order to get your shit together you HAVE to put yourself first. It's easy to get so caught up in helping and focusing on others that we often neglect ourselves. TREAT YO SELF! Go to bed early, do some yoga, sleep in, get your nails done, get your hair done, go for a walk, whatever you need to do in order to rejuvenate, do it. The better you feel about yourself the better you will feel about your life. Make time for YOU to do the things you love and that make you happy. Also, surround yourself with positive people. When you are a hot mess, the last thing you need is another hot mess bringing you down. Be around people who raise you up and don't be afraid to ask for help, cause chances are they've been there before too.
Don't attack everything all at once. Start chipping away at aspects of your life and begin to get them in order. Write a few essays, go to the gym, eat a salad, go to bed early. Make a few changes and cross a few things off your list in order to pull yourself together a bit. Stop thinking you can do it all, because I hate to break it to you, you can't. Focus your energy on the things that are important and get them done. Stop stressing and just go with the flow and let everything play out, you can do it.
Slowly but surely you will begin to feel less stressed and like you can be a normal human again. Take it one step at a time and know that you are doing a great job. Let go of all the bad habits and bad people bringing you down. Be kind to yourself and know that you're doing the best you can.
It's okay to fall apart, it's okay to be a hot mess, it's okay for your life to be a fucking shit show. But don't get so caught up in it that you forget there's a way out. No one has it all figure out. No one's life is as perfect as their stupid Instagram posts. You are not alone in your struggles. But know that you will get it together and things will feel better and you will be able to look back and laugh about what a disaster you were.
If you feel as though your life is a complete cluster fuck, do yourself a favor and get your shit together. Take it from someone who is a hot mess 24/7, it needs to be done, and it's possible. Life is all about balance, and when things get out of whack it can be overwhelming and defeating, but it's never too late to get back on track. Be strong enough to pick up the pieces when everything falls apart.