Let's be real, no matter where you go in life there are going to be haters. Lately I feel as though I have been suffocated with people trying to bring me down. I recently submitted a rough draft to one of my professors and her correction comments were longer than the essay itself. Some words she used to describe my writing were "lacking substance, colloquial, clique, refine diction, lacks richness, look fir more sophisticated verbs," and my personal favorite, "AWK." As someone with a passion for writing/blogging and someone who has always been praised for my writing abilities, you can imagine my dismay. I felt as though I had been punched in the stomach. I'll admit I even shed a few tears, because criticism SUCKS and it does not feel good. But I realized that instead of getting down about myself because of what one person thought, I needed to take some advice from my girl Tswift: shake it off.
I know that it's my professors job to give feedback and she openly admitted her comments were going to be harsh and she was not going to pat us on the back. And sure, you could say in the long run it will make me "a better person" or "a better writer", but I disagree. Obviously to receive a good grade I must comply with her suggestions, which annoys me to no end. But my point in this story is that you shouldn't have to change who you are for somebody else. You are who you are, no apologies. There was a time where I would have received her comments and shut down, stopped writing all together, and thought I was a total failure, but not anymore. Why? Because I am confident in who I am, what I'm doing, and what I stand for. And I know that as I get older I am going to run into so many people who don't like me or my writing, and there's nothing I can do about that. I am not going to change who I am to please someone else, not for friends, teachers, or even employers. If someone is not going to be friends with me or hire me because they don't appreciate me or what I'm doing then so what, I'll find people who do.
As long as you are doing what you love, being true to yourself, and following your heart, that's all that matters. Chances are you're going to get rejected at some point in life, but it's nothing to be discouraged about. There are people out there who will never understand you, but there will be so many more that will. Don't settle for less than what you deserve. Keep doing your thing and don't care if they like it. Don't let people tear you down and convince you that you aren't good enough because you are. Haters gonna hate, you just have to keep you're head high and shake it off.
Love Always,
Olivia Jane
I know that it's my professors job to give feedback and she openly admitted her comments were going to be harsh and she was not going to pat us on the back. And sure, you could say in the long run it will make me "a better person" or "a better writer", but I disagree. Obviously to receive a good grade I must comply with her suggestions, which annoys me to no end. But my point in this story is that you shouldn't have to change who you are for somebody else. You are who you are, no apologies. There was a time where I would have received her comments and shut down, stopped writing all together, and thought I was a total failure, but not anymore. Why? Because I am confident in who I am, what I'm doing, and what I stand for. And I know that as I get older I am going to run into so many people who don't like me or my writing, and there's nothing I can do about that. I am not going to change who I am to please someone else, not for friends, teachers, or even employers. If someone is not going to be friends with me or hire me because they don't appreciate me or what I'm doing then so what, I'll find people who do.
As long as you are doing what you love, being true to yourself, and following your heart, that's all that matters. Chances are you're going to get rejected at some point in life, but it's nothing to be discouraged about. There are people out there who will never understand you, but there will be so many more that will. Don't settle for less than what you deserve. Keep doing your thing and don't care if they like it. Don't let people tear you down and convince you that you aren't good enough because you are. Haters gonna hate, you just have to keep you're head high and shake it off.
Love Always,
Olivia Jane
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